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What does it mean to be a foster carer?
To celebrate the start of Foster Care Fortnight (14-27 May), we have teamed with the BBC to produce an inspirational video highlighting the amazing work that foster carers do. Today on the blog, we hear from one of our contributors, Niki, who reveals what it means to her to be a foster carer.
A day in my life is never dull, one minute I could be playing on a trampoline, the next picking daisies or perhaps visiting a museum or zoo. Recently I took part in a film for BAAF on what it means to be a foster carer – never in my wildest dreams did I expect to spend part of the day in my dressing gown reading stories on camera! Like all experiences related to foster care this was incredibly rewarding and offered me the opportunity to share the love and commitment I have for my job and my fellow human beings. Somehow describing foster caring as a ‘job’ feels fundamentally wrong, it is more of a vocation. Nothing else quite measures up.
It is not a run of the mill nine to five occupation; it is unlike any other profession. There are no set hours, no two days are ever the same and no two placements are ever the same because all children and young people are individuals. One minute I may be changing nappies, the next perhaps completing documents to submit to the courts – this of course is the serious side of foster caring. You have a responsibility to keep records, a need to keep up to date with training, you are accountable for the children in your care and as such must ensure that you are performing to the best of your ability – this takes time, it takes energy and it takes tenacity. Foster caring is not for the faint hearted!
A foster carer is to all intents and purposes a substitute parent – we raise the children in our care as if they are our own, we love them, worry about them, rejoice in their achievements, hurt when they hurt, laugh when they laugh, they belong to our family. We also share them with their own birth families. Most foster children still have contact with their families and it is part of our role to encourage this special relationship. Contact of course is not always an easy arrangement, family circumstances can be complex; relationships difficult and when contact is no longer feasible the foster carer will be there to continue to offer love and support unconditionally. When the time comes for a child to move on, it is the foster carer that ensures a smooth transition.
Each child or young person needs the space and time to make sense of their previous life experiences whilst also being encouraged to take those vital steps forwards; either back to their families or onto another life. Of course we will be left behind with our tissues and our memories but a piece of our heart always goes along side each and every child or young person; we will never forget them or the joy they have brought to our lives and we can rejoice in another job well done.
That is the essence of why I feel foster caring is so special, once in the role, very few decide to leave for no other job offers the hope, the happiness and the pleasure of fostering caring. Ultimately I am a foster carer because unlike every other profession I have experienced, this is the only one to ever give love back and in abundance.
Click 'play' below to watch BAAF's Foster Care Film.
If you would like more information on fostering or are considering becoming a foster carer, please visit the main BAAF website. For more stories from foster carers, why not visit our online bookstore?
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
A Love Less Ordinary
(c) E>marA little over a year ago, David and Lisa Chandler adopted twin boys. Fourteen months into their 'happy ever after', David reflects on their very first days as a new family.
It's around 7pm on a Tuesday in late February, or 'Day 1', and there are two small boys in our bathroom, dressed in robot pyjamas, brushing their teeth. They are, more or less, complete strangers to me. And they'll be here forever.
This is the prickly paradox at the heart of the adoption process. They are 'your' children, you have been trusted with caring for them indefinitely and they look upon you with the expectation any child might have of his or her parent – yet you are aliens to one another.
Just a fortnight before, after the kind people of our Matching Panel had given it all the green light, the four-year-olds were handed two little books containing photos of their new mum and dad and their future home, far away. They were told by grown-ups that the dreams the boys didn't know they had would soon be coming true, that this lady and man would be their 'new mummy and daddy' and that they’d be meeting them soon. The boys, of course, as kids do, just accepted this as fact even though, by and large, grown-ups have done nothing but let them down the whole of their remarkable little lives.
And, then, before anyone really has time to do anything, they're here. Don't think that this shock, this reality check, was due to any lack of preparation. It is not always the case, I'm sure, but our agency and the boys' social care team seemed to miss nothing in preparing us for the adoption. No stone was left unturned. The reality, however, is something that no other experience in life can ready you for. We studied, we read, we listened and talked and talked. Then we decorated two bedrooms and bought a few toys. We invested emotionally and physically.
As the lads brushed their teeth that night, on the mantelpiece downstairs sat a half-dozen kind (and very welcome) cards carrying heartfelt and well-intended messages of love and excitement. 'You've got your family now!', 'You all must be soooo excited!!'. The truth is, we hadn't got our family yet. We had four people and some cards.
There are many touching tales of love-at-first-sight adoptions and I don't doubt their veracity for a moment but, for us, it wasn't like this. We liked the boys straight away, of course, and felt confident that love would inevitably follow, as it has. But, in those early days, there was just function and regulation – management, really. No one likes to speak in those terms but, if you're readying yourself for adoption, be prepared.
Long after those robot pyjamas have been replaced (they grow so quickly) these boys, our boys, are loved perhaps more than they have ever been by anyone. It is a happy ending of sorts but the penultimate chapter was by far the hardest. Just make sure you read to the end.
For more information about adoption, please visit the main BAAF website. For more stories about adoption, check out our online bookstore.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
It's around 7pm on a Tuesday in late February, or 'Day 1', and there are two small boys in our bathroom, dressed in robot pyjamas, brushing their teeth. They are, more or less, complete strangers to me. And they'll be here forever.
This is the prickly paradox at the heart of the adoption process. They are 'your' children, you have been trusted with caring for them indefinitely and they look upon you with the expectation any child might have of his or her parent – yet you are aliens to one another.
Just a fortnight before, after the kind people of our Matching Panel had given it all the green light, the four-year-olds were handed two little books containing photos of their new mum and dad and their future home, far away. They were told by grown-ups that the dreams the boys didn't know they had would soon be coming true, that this lady and man would be their 'new mummy and daddy' and that they’d be meeting them soon. The boys, of course, as kids do, just accepted this as fact even though, by and large, grown-ups have done nothing but let them down the whole of their remarkable little lives.
And, then, before anyone really has time to do anything, they're here. Don't think that this shock, this reality check, was due to any lack of preparation. It is not always the case, I'm sure, but our agency and the boys' social care team seemed to miss nothing in preparing us for the adoption. No stone was left unturned. The reality, however, is something that no other experience in life can ready you for. We studied, we read, we listened and talked and talked. Then we decorated two bedrooms and bought a few toys. We invested emotionally and physically.
As the lads brushed their teeth that night, on the mantelpiece downstairs sat a half-dozen kind (and very welcome) cards carrying heartfelt and well-intended messages of love and excitement. 'You've got your family now!', 'You all must be soooo excited!!'. The truth is, we hadn't got our family yet. We had four people and some cards.
There are many touching tales of love-at-first-sight adoptions and I don't doubt their veracity for a moment but, for us, it wasn't like this. We liked the boys straight away, of course, and felt confident that love would inevitably follow, as it has. But, in those early days, there was just function and regulation – management, really. No one likes to speak in those terms but, if you're readying yourself for adoption, be prepared.
Long after those robot pyjamas have been replaced (they grow so quickly) these boys, our boys, are loved perhaps more than they have ever been by anyone. It is a happy ending of sorts but the penultimate chapter was by far the hardest. Just make sure you read to the end.
For more information about adoption, please visit the main BAAF website. For more stories about adoption, check out our online bookstore.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
An insight into adopting a child with disabilities
I thought long and hard before deciding to write this story. We're just an ordinary family of six, who, like thousands of others, happen to have a child with disabilities. And he just happens to be adopted. There are thousands of children in the UK waiting for adoption, and many will never be placed with families. I hope that by sharing our experience we may be able to offer a bit of practical advice and insight to others who might be thinking of adoption, and in particular if they are thinking of adopting a child with disabilities.
The decision to adopt, or even to make that first phone call, isn’t at all straightforward. It's the beginning of a mystery tour…an unknown journey. We thought a lot about the sort of child that would fit in best with our family. We ended up thinking that a child with mild disabilities might be the best fit. Of course, the term "mild disability" is a bit elastic. William, who we eventually adopted, has cerebral palsy. He is more physically disabled than we'd envisaged and we think that he may never be able to walk.
When he joined us it was a bit like being parents for the first time again – having a being who is totally dependent on you, despite your utter lack of experience and skills. William didn't come with an instruction manual. There was lots of information about his background and the nature of his disability, and there were lists of the routines he was used to, the things he would eat, and his bedtime rituals. We've had to put our own unwritten manual together about how to fully care for him as we've gone along, and as we have got to know William and grown to love and understand him.
William has enriched us and our other children. We re-read his early life history the other day: his premature birth and subsequent withdrawal from opiates as a result of his birth mother's drug addiction; periods alone in hospital; nine different care arrangements in the first six months of his life; the overwhelming grief he went through when he came to live with us and had to leave his foster carers; the struggle to find his sense of self in the light of being unwanted by his birth family; coming to terms with being a wheelchair user. And if that wasn't enough, it was then discovered that he had a visual impairment, he developed migraines and he was shunned by other children when he desperately wanted their friendship. Given all this, it is remarkable that he's as cheerful, loving and courageous as he is, and that he shows no shred of self-pity. He can light up a room with his infectious love of life. It is a privilege and joy to be his parents.
Robert and Evie, along with their three birth children, adopted William, a little boy with cerebral palsy. You can read more about their life together in The Family Business.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
The decision to adopt, or even to make that first phone call, isn’t at all straightforward. It's the beginning of a mystery tour…an unknown journey. We thought a lot about the sort of child that would fit in best with our family. We ended up thinking that a child with mild disabilities might be the best fit. Of course, the term "mild disability" is a bit elastic. William, who we eventually adopted, has cerebral palsy. He is more physically disabled than we'd envisaged and we think that he may never be able to walk.
When he joined us it was a bit like being parents for the first time again – having a being who is totally dependent on you, despite your utter lack of experience and skills. William didn't come with an instruction manual. There was lots of information about his background and the nature of his disability, and there were lists of the routines he was used to, the things he would eat, and his bedtime rituals. We've had to put our own unwritten manual together about how to fully care for him as we've gone along, and as we have got to know William and grown to love and understand him.
William has enriched us and our other children. We re-read his early life history the other day: his premature birth and subsequent withdrawal from opiates as a result of his birth mother's drug addiction; periods alone in hospital; nine different care arrangements in the first six months of his life; the overwhelming grief he went through when he came to live with us and had to leave his foster carers; the struggle to find his sense of self in the light of being unwanted by his birth family; coming to terms with being a wheelchair user. And if that wasn't enough, it was then discovered that he had a visual impairment, he developed migraines and he was shunned by other children when he desperately wanted their friendship. Given all this, it is remarkable that he's as cheerful, loving and courageous as he is, and that he shows no shred of self-pity. He can light up a room with his infectious love of life. It is a privilege and joy to be his parents.
Robert and Evie, along with their three birth children, adopted William, a little boy with cerebral palsy. You can read more about their life together in The Family Business.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
Running the London Marathon to raise funds for adoption & fostering
BAAF's very own Senior Media & PR Officer Dan French was among the thousands of runners who took part in the 2012 Virgin London Marathon on Sunday, April 22. Here, he talks through the day and encourages others to consider signing up for the 2013 race.
When I agreed last summer to take part in the Virgin London Marathon 2012, I had no real idea what I was letting myself in for. Sure, those that have raced before explain how difficult the training can be, but nobody truly prepares you for running in the freezing cold, the pouring rain, and the amount you sweat during a rare moment of British sunshine – not to mention the horrific injuries you sustain!
Last Sunday, the big day finally arrived. I don’t care what any bride tells you – travelling down to the VLM has to be far more nerve-racking than making your way to the church for your wedding.
Just after 10am, I, alongside thousands of runners, set off on my 26 mile mission. I have to say that the first 10 miles passed by without too much pain, but after that I began to count the miles and look out for each mile marker.
I spotted friends and family around the 18 mile mark, which truly was a high. It sounds cliché, but if it wasn’t for the amazing crowds on the day, I doubt that runners would make it through the race. The adrenaline and excitement of the day started to wear off shortly afterwards and by mile 24, I was ready to give up. For the first time during the race I started walking, which was the point that I saw a young girl in the crowd, cheering me on. “Come on, Dan – keep running, you can do it!” I rolled my eyes, begrudgingly picked up the pace, and somehow managed to break into what can only be described as a pathetic hobble.
Those next two miles were pretty excruciating, but the pain began to fade when I saw a banner claiming “Only 800m left!” and promptly broke into a sprint. I saw a man in a rhino costume and a couple of people dressed as Wombles – no way was I going to let them beat me!
Five hours and two minutes after I started the Virgin London Marathon, I crossed the finish line, euphoric, proud, and SO pleased I agreed to take part in such an amazing challenge.
If you would like to sign up to the 2013 VLM to help raise money for the British Association for Adoption & Fostering, please visit the BAAF fundraising site. If you would like to sponsor Dan for his efforts on the day, head over to his sponsorship page.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
When I agreed last summer to take part in the Virgin London Marathon 2012, I had no real idea what I was letting myself in for. Sure, those that have raced before explain how difficult the training can be, but nobody truly prepares you for running in the freezing cold, the pouring rain, and the amount you sweat during a rare moment of British sunshine – not to mention the horrific injuries you sustain!
Last Sunday, the big day finally arrived. I don’t care what any bride tells you – travelling down to the VLM has to be far more nerve-racking than making your way to the church for your wedding.
Just after 10am, I, alongside thousands of runners, set off on my 26 mile mission. I have to say that the first 10 miles passed by without too much pain, but after that I began to count the miles and look out for each mile marker.
I spotted friends and family around the 18 mile mark, which truly was a high. It sounds cliché, but if it wasn’t for the amazing crowds on the day, I doubt that runners would make it through the race. The adrenaline and excitement of the day started to wear off shortly afterwards and by mile 24, I was ready to give up. For the first time during the race I started walking, which was the point that I saw a young girl in the crowd, cheering me on. “Come on, Dan – keep running, you can do it!” I rolled my eyes, begrudgingly picked up the pace, and somehow managed to break into what can only be described as a pathetic hobble.
Those next two miles were pretty excruciating, but the pain began to fade when I saw a banner claiming “Only 800m left!” and promptly broke into a sprint. I saw a man in a rhino costume and a couple of people dressed as Wombles – no way was I going to let them beat me!
Five hours and two minutes after I started the Virgin London Marathon, I crossed the finish line, euphoric, proud, and SO pleased I agreed to take part in such an amazing challenge.
If you would like to sign up to the 2013 VLM to help raise money for the British Association for Adoption & Fostering, please visit the BAAF fundraising site. If you would like to sponsor Dan for his efforts on the day, head over to his sponsorship page.
The BAAF blog at baaf.org.uk/blog
BAAF chief exec takes to Twitter for Q&A on Government Adoption Action Plan
There have been many Government announcements on adoption in recent weeks, and an increased focus from senior Government figures on improving outcomes for children in care. Is the adoption process going to be made easier? How will it be made easier? Will the system become more efficient? Does ethnicity matter in adoption? What support will a prospective adopter get? Last night (Thursday, April 19) the British Association for Adoption & Fostering’s chief executive David Holmes took to Twitter to field questions on the reforms. See below for a transcript - most recent tweets appear first.@rosiechook
Had a great #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption but I had to disappear at the end due to Mummy duties! Sorry! It was good so many contributed x
@adopdadSorry forgot to sign off #adoptfosterchat thanks @BAAFAdoption for good convo
@Threebecomefour Time to head off. Thanks for a fab chat everyone #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Totally agree. Process shd be continuous with ongoing prep. The waiting about is frustrating #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @baafadoption Thanks Jo. Have put it on my wishlist #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @Threebecomefour @ins_foundations this is where real improvements can be made with better use of existing resources #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @Threebecomefour @ins_foundations totally agree. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Also there is the issue of all the delays in the process. It starts and stops constantly #adoptfosterchat
@Chris_Creegan @BAAFAdoption @Oona_King Let's get #adoptfosterchat trending. Could make a huge difference to real lives.
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Trouble is legislate to make it too quick and mistakes will be made with approvals and links #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @mrs_nicholls @BAAFAdoption Having bedtime issues going on here as well! They chose their moments don't they?Sorted now? #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @ins_foundations interesting. Sounds right to me. Many in govt would say that's too long. #adoptfosterchat@Threebecomefour @SimpleAdoption @BAAFAdoption That's really good to hear. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @ins_foundations Totally agree! Am trying to keep up with training where possible and pre-empt what I might need to know #adoptfosterchat
@mrs_nichollsAgh, missed #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption after a nightmare bedtime tonight! Mini still refusing to sleep and disturbing Dollop in process!
@Threebecomefour @hazeyjayneone @PottiJo @baafadoption Will have to look that book up #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption @Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Absolutely! Really pleased to see Care for the Family taking this up too. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations@Threebecomefour Yes and training AFTER placement is vital too! We forget lots from prep groups, often a year or more ago #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ..which is exactly why this HAS to be different! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thanks for hosting! Great to be involved. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour@SimpleAdoption I have a friend who is the same as you and lots of people question why they've adopted #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption Thanks for hosting #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @PottiJo @baafadoption I love the title of that book "How to be a Velvet Bulldozer"! #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption Even our SW repeatedly says how unusual we are for adopting without ever trying to conceive. We're sad it's so uncommon. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour@ins_foundations Totally agree. I am wrapping my head around all sorts of things as the time passes eg contact letters #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane lovin the #adoptfosterchat tonight! <3
@BAAFAdoptionPlease check our blog tomorrow for a full round-up of tonight's #adoptfosterchat http://bit.ly/HSQvMt
@BAAFAdoption Thanks everyone for joining us - if you need further advice/support, pls call us - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@LouiseWhite68@spursblogger #adoptfosterchat i know a foster carer who says fewer approved adopters in her L A
@ins_foundations I am sure most adopters would say that around 9-12 months about right for preperation #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @SimpleAdoption @BAAFAdoption I think more awareness of adoption should be given as part of PSHE in schools to support this #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @SimpleAdoption Totally agree - people adopt for a wide range of reasons #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I wonder how many experienced adopters they have spoken 2 about this, its not until after placement that u understand it #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Vernice33 Assessment should b completed within 8 mths, but can take longer. Matching can happen v quickly #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption@BAAFAdoption Adoption is a great *first choice* option to create a family. Ppl assume infertility - nope, we just CARE! #adoptfosterchat@Threebecomefour@MoreConnecting We have been delighted. Our daughter is amazing. We are so blessed to have her. #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @hazeyjayneone Good for you! :) #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption@Threebecomefour @ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I would agree with this. You need time to absorb and really understand it all #adoptfosterchat@Vernice33 Hi how long does it take on average to go through the adoption process? #adoptfosterchat
@Simpsongray@BAAFAdoption Adoption changes lives...permanently, and results in a fantastic success or a desperate, emotional struggle #adoptfosterchat@PottiJo@BAAFAdoption @spursblogger so true and sometimes it can split sibling groups #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thank you! #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MoreConnecting Call us for more info - we'll talk through with you http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @PottiJo We stamp our feet! Who wouldn't for our gorgeous little one! #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I would say 10-12 months is about right #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @QuiverFullMummy We know this happens a lot- but decisions have to be made in a child's timescales #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption needs to be prioritised. Clear focus. Money not absorbed in LA budget #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @Scottish_Mum Totally agree with this. You often don't know what you need to know until further along #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @spursblogger @pottijo @baafadoption Indeed, you can see how enormously stretched services are... #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thanks! We went to a different LA and it was a much better process. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Pls call us & we'll talk through with you - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting The SWs look at your profile in relation to children needing placements. Our match was excellent. Great SW! #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @adopdad @LouiseWhite68 true. Limited resources and priorities. Most authorities have protected CP budgets as much as poss #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @spursblogger Different children have different needs. Adoption is right for some but not all #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone Maybe stampy ya feet a bit more then! :) #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@rosiechook @MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption yes our delays were due to outside agencies not our placing LA #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook I wrote a blog post about FB the other day. Been an interesting experience. I don't think you're alone #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Agree - we arrange a number of these ourselves. Grt opp4prospective adopters2find out abt children waiting #adoptfosterchat
@nellieberta #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption It's been a long, difficult road but the smile on my beautiful little boys face makes it all worthwhile
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook That's not good at all is it? #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption i think there's some cultural barriers to cross in some cases. We need ambassadors for those communities #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption needs more direction then rather than just guidance to ensure its there #adoptfosterchat
@MoreConnecting @Threebecomefour I don't much about adoption. How does the matching process work? #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @PottiJo Yes we have and will continue to do this #adoptfosterchat @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone
@Marleytheplay @BAAFAdoption Check out this fantastic review by @debster_h on the play about transracial adoption http://theartsolution.tumblr.com/post/21266067935/i-am-marley-by-aminata-kamara "#adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @Scottish_Mum @BAAFAdoption We were given an experienced adopter for mentoring in early days. That was very helpful #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Important to say this - people need time to adjust and prepare for adoption #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ..I suggest ringfenced govt funding for postadoption support #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour It is tough. Most info I have gained from using facebook etc but that's another story! #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MaryamLane Agree - we need families from across the community #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption has consistently stressed this but huge prob for cash strapped authorities #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting (2/2) from prep to panel but we'll see how it pans out. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Important thing is that we focus on what matters - some assessments will need to take longer #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations we find new parents are v grateful for the life story work that's been done #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting We contacted in Sept. Had prep course but still waiting for a SW to be appointed. They say 8 months (1/2) #adoptfosterchat
@Amii4eva @BAAFAdoption I just wrote and directed a play about transracial adoption.. take a look > http://www.obv.org.uk/news-blogs/shedding-light-transracial-adoption #OBV #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption Nhs and other outside agencies involved in process can also contribute to delay. #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum @Simpsongray @BAAFAdoption @1st glad you kept going #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MaryamLane Fantastic to hear this! #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour not really! A newsletter arrives every now and then but that's it! #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger Another worry govt focus on adoption marginalising fostering and valuable role of permanent fostering. Choice to meet need #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations No - it's a requirement in adoption guidance #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MaryamLane So great to hear that!! #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @PottiJo @BAAFAdoption good idea! I'm sure it would help to understand attachment and loss in adopted children #adoptfosterchat
@Simpsongray @BAAFAdoption, Local Auth rejected us @1st enquiry. We thought they wanted new BME adopters. Good thing we kept trying #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @LouiseWhite68 They can be - there are a range of sources of delay inc. court delays, expert assessment... #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I attended an exchange day yesterday - excellent events, very worthwhile for prospective adopters. There should be more #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @spursblogger @LouiseWhite68 or resources placed in post Baby P assessments? #needadoptionsupport #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone Has @BAAFAdoption highlighted 2 government the need 4 more resources 2 post adoption support #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @Scottish_Mum @BAAFAdoption Yes it's an amazing support. We talk about everything in our lives. So helpful #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Great idea! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @adopdad @BAAFAdoption Definitely!! Rollercoaster from the start of process to current time. Wouldn't change a moment tho #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Scottish_Mum Agree - prep needs to be thorough & continuing (not just at start of process) #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations Obviously 2, 3 4 years etc.. is to long, but 6 months is not a long time to get your head around adoption & all it entails #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption We have been lucky that foster carer has helped and the LSB is being put together now #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane personally one of the issues that i feel needs addressing is to attract more EM prospective adopters #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Visit our website to see how many adoption agencies there are across UK - you can choose #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @LouiseWhite68 it is a factor in some places. Authorities have run down adoption teams over past few years #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook Have the post-adoption team given you any support? #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @ins_foundations should be some basic standards - we've paid privately to get ours done. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I am concerned that the assesment will now be to short #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane we have had an amazing adoption experience. Yes some unnecessary delays but on the whole good and enjoying every second #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Amii4eva Good question - v important to ensure appropriate support available #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum @ins_foundations I thought it was up to parents to do life story work #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption I'm v concerned that resources aren't & won't be available for postadoption support #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @hazeyjayneone Call our helpline to talk through - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Sorry to hear that - LSB does make a difference #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour I would love any help as to how to help her understand but there is so little support #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations Many LA's saying they are not doing life story books anymore - is this allowed? #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @Miniminstrel @BAAFAdoption that's sad :-( and I hope your children are getting the help they need #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption That's why I write my blog. To show how positive it can be #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour we had everything from foster carers as lil chick was relinquished. Her past is a great unknown #adoptfosterchat
@LouiseWhite68 @BAAFAdoption @spursblogger #adoptfosterchat are delays due to lack of social workers to do adopter assessments?
@PottiJo @rosiechook @BAAFAdoption Maybe it needs to form part of the schools SENCO training #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption Absolutely - recent Ofsted report highlighted court delays as a key reason for delays in process @QuiverFullMummy #adoptfosterchat
@KallyBlueEyes #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption I think kids who have been adopted should have a social worker they can contact in case things go wrong...
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption We have an online adoption support group and meet up at least once a year from around the country #adoptfosterchat.
@lgbtadoptfoster @BAAFAdoption - and realistic of course - it's a tricky balance! #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations some profs just think it doesnt apply to adopted children - they are in a loving home now & should be fine type attitude #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Agree / RT @hazeyjayneone: @BAAFAdoption ...trying to access basic post-adoption help seems almost impossible. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster It was 5 years before I phoned again re adoption (a different agency this time though). #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption @Miniminstrel also found that teachers need to understand their own - yes own attachment patterns. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @rosiechook Agree - life story work is vital for helping children make sense of their lives #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption Seems there is no consistency across country in terms of post adoption support #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@skylarkuk #adoptfosterchat - schools and gp's could do with some better understanding of the issues, thank goodness for my PASW!
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour So important to share these success stories #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum I adopted special needs and it's been lovey but tough going. Not enough preparation in the process when we went through it. #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger RT @lgbtadoptfoster: fear too many potentially good adopters give up after bad initial reception, or receiving poor service #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @PottiJo Great to hear! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster First time I phoned we were just asked if we'd take a child with SEN. That was it. #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @PottiJo @BAAFAdoption yes I agree I think Schools should be more enlightened #adoptfosterchat it would help so much!
@BAAFAdoption @Miniminstrel Agree-we've started training some teachers abt adoption eg understanding childrens attachment.More2b done #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Whats that? / RT @BAAFAdoption: ... you'd need to talk to your agency about financial support for education #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@PottiJo @ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I'm not sure there is a standardised training offered #adoptfosterchat
@Amii4eva "@BAAFAdoption: are the needs of transracially adopted children being adequately met? #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @baafadoption #adoptfosterchat A national gateway is a geat idea. We were put on hold totally 22mnths! now 3yrs in and still no child
@twoplusmunch @BAAFAdoption we have had a fight on our hands this year getting school to recognise needs of our son #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ...trying to access basic post-adoption help seems almost impossible. Assessment was a breeze in comparison! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour · Open@rosiechook I agree. We're still waiting for our LSB two years after adopting our daughter #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Lots more sadly / RT @PottiJo: @BAAFAdoption There needs to be some further work with schools I think #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster We understand it can take weeks to pluck up courage to make initial call - we need to respond well #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook And yes we should celebrate adoption successes and promote them too! #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum I haven't found schools have made allowances for #adoptfosterchat adoption, I have to say.
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption some schools do, or should I say some teachers get it. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption That's my area of work & I am still get surprised at the lack of knowledge amongst teachers &other profs #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour #adoptfosterchat Our adoption story: Life with Katie http://www.our-adoption-story.blogspot.co.uk/
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption There needs to be some further work with schools I think #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster Detail of how gateway will work is still being discussed.Agree that we need2find ways of tracking interest #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook #adoptfosterchat I feel we need more after support especially about life story work
@mrsmooshoes @BAAFAdoption Our adopted daughter (5) was explaining what it meant to a foster child who joined her class recently. #proud #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @lgbtadoptfoster Totally agree. Have several friends who have withdrawn after too much negativity from the social workers. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption It's really important that schools understand the needs of adopted children #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption absolutely and panel usually ask more detail on family finding #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption ... you'd need to talk to your agency about financial support for education #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption I would also add better support with managing contact. Whole-heartedly agree with your list... #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour We have had an amazing adoption so far. I have lots of adopter friends with equally positive stories and experiences.#adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption I've seen fab matches & its amazing than being part of the process 2 give a child a forever home #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption Gvn't announced recently that adopted children should be given priority in school admissions... #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption absolutely,difficult with all the confidentially involved. Wld
Had a great #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption but I had to disappear at the end due to Mummy duties! Sorry! It was good so many contributed x
@adopdadSorry forgot to sign off #adoptfosterchat thanks @BAAFAdoption for good convo
@Threebecomefour Time to head off. Thanks for a fab chat everyone #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Totally agree. Process shd be continuous with ongoing prep. The waiting about is frustrating #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @baafadoption Thanks Jo. Have put it on my wishlist #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @Threebecomefour @ins_foundations this is where real improvements can be made with better use of existing resources #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @Threebecomefour @ins_foundations totally agree. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Also there is the issue of all the delays in the process. It starts and stops constantly #adoptfosterchat
@Chris_Creegan @BAAFAdoption @Oona_King Let's get #adoptfosterchat trending. Could make a huge difference to real lives.
@Threebecomefour @spursblogger @ins_foundations Trouble is legislate to make it too quick and mistakes will be made with approvals and links #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @mrs_nicholls @BAAFAdoption Having bedtime issues going on here as well! They chose their moments don't they?Sorted now? #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @ins_foundations interesting. Sounds right to me. Many in govt would say that's too long. #adoptfosterchat@Threebecomefour @SimpleAdoption @BAAFAdoption That's really good to hear. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @ins_foundations Totally agree! Am trying to keep up with training where possible and pre-empt what I might need to know #adoptfosterchat
@mrs_nichollsAgh, missed #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption after a nightmare bedtime tonight! Mini still refusing to sleep and disturbing Dollop in process!
@Threebecomefour @hazeyjayneone @PottiJo @baafadoption Will have to look that book up #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption @Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Absolutely! Really pleased to see Care for the Family taking this up too. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations@Threebecomefour Yes and training AFTER placement is vital too! We forget lots from prep groups, often a year or more ago #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ..which is exactly why this HAS to be different! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thanks for hosting! Great to be involved. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour@SimpleAdoption I have a friend who is the same as you and lots of people question why they've adopted #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption Thanks for hosting #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @PottiJo @baafadoption I love the title of that book "How to be a Velvet Bulldozer"! #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption Even our SW repeatedly says how unusual we are for adopting without ever trying to conceive. We're sad it's so uncommon. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour@ins_foundations Totally agree. I am wrapping my head around all sorts of things as the time passes eg contact letters #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane lovin the #adoptfosterchat tonight! <3
@BAAFAdoptionPlease check our blog tomorrow for a full round-up of tonight's #adoptfosterchat http://bit.ly/HSQvMt
@BAAFAdoption Thanks everyone for joining us - if you need further advice/support, pls call us - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@LouiseWhite68@spursblogger #adoptfosterchat i know a foster carer who says fewer approved adopters in her L A
@ins_foundations I am sure most adopters would say that around 9-12 months about right for preperation #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @SimpleAdoption @BAAFAdoption I think more awareness of adoption should be given as part of PSHE in schools to support this #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @SimpleAdoption Totally agree - people adopt for a wide range of reasons #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I wonder how many experienced adopters they have spoken 2 about this, its not until after placement that u understand it #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Vernice33 Assessment should b completed within 8 mths, but can take longer. Matching can happen v quickly #adoptfosterchat
@SimpleAdoption@BAAFAdoption Adoption is a great *first choice* option to create a family. Ppl assume infertility - nope, we just CARE! #adoptfosterchat@Threebecomefour@MoreConnecting We have been delighted. Our daughter is amazing. We are so blessed to have her. #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @hazeyjayneone Good for you! :) #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption@Threebecomefour @ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I would agree with this. You need time to absorb and really understand it all #adoptfosterchat@Vernice33 Hi how long does it take on average to go through the adoption process? #adoptfosterchat
@Simpsongray@BAAFAdoption Adoption changes lives...permanently, and results in a fantastic success or a desperate, emotional struggle #adoptfosterchat@PottiJo@BAAFAdoption @spursblogger so true and sometimes it can split sibling groups #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thank you! #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MoreConnecting Call us for more info - we'll talk through with you http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @PottiJo We stamp our feet! Who wouldn't for our gorgeous little one! #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I would say 10-12 months is about right #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @QuiverFullMummy We know this happens a lot- but decisions have to be made in a child's timescales #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption needs to be prioritised. Clear focus. Money not absorbed in LA budget #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @Scottish_Mum Totally agree with this. You often don't know what you need to know until further along #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @spursblogger @pottijo @baafadoption Indeed, you can see how enormously stretched services are... #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption Thanks! We went to a different LA and it was a much better process. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Pls call us & we'll talk through with you - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting The SWs look at your profile in relation to children needing placements. Our match was excellent. Great SW! #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @adopdad @LouiseWhite68 true. Limited resources and priorities. Most authorities have protected CP budgets as much as poss #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @spursblogger Different children have different needs. Adoption is right for some but not all #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone Maybe stampy ya feet a bit more then! :) #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@rosiechook @MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption yes our delays were due to outside agencies not our placing LA #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook I wrote a blog post about FB the other day. Been an interesting experience. I don't think you're alone #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Agree - we arrange a number of these ourselves. Grt opp4prospective adopters2find out abt children waiting #adoptfosterchat
@nellieberta #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption It's been a long, difficult road but the smile on my beautiful little boys face makes it all worthwhile
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook That's not good at all is it? #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption i think there's some cultural barriers to cross in some cases. We need ambassadors for those communities #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption needs more direction then rather than just guidance to ensure its there #adoptfosterchat
@MoreConnecting @Threebecomefour I don't much about adoption. How does the matching process work? #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @PottiJo Yes we have and will continue to do this #adoptfosterchat @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone
@Marleytheplay @BAAFAdoption Check out this fantastic review by @debster_h on the play about transracial adoption http://theartsolution.tumblr.com/post/21266067935/i-am-marley-by-aminata-kamara "#adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @Scottish_Mum @BAAFAdoption We were given an experienced adopter for mentoring in early days. That was very helpful #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Important to say this - people need time to adjust and prepare for adoption #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ..I suggest ringfenced govt funding for postadoption support #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour It is tough. Most info I have gained from using facebook etc but that's another story! #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MaryamLane Agree - we need families from across the community #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption has consistently stressed this but huge prob for cash strapped authorities #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting (2/2) from prep to panel but we'll see how it pans out. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations Important thing is that we focus on what matters - some assessments will need to take longer #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations we find new parents are v grateful for the life story work that's been done #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@Threebecomefour @MoreConnecting We contacted in Sept. Had prep course but still waiting for a SW to be appointed. They say 8 months (1/2) #adoptfosterchat
@Amii4eva @BAAFAdoption I just wrote and directed a play about transracial adoption.. take a look > http://www.obv.org.uk/news-blogs/shedding-light-transracial-adoption #OBV #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane @BAAFAdoption Nhs and other outside agencies involved in process can also contribute to delay. #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum @Simpsongray @BAAFAdoption @1st glad you kept going #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @MaryamLane Fantastic to hear this! #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour not really! A newsletter arrives every now and then but that's it! #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger Another worry govt focus on adoption marginalising fostering and valuable role of permanent fostering. Choice to meet need #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @ins_foundations No - it's a requirement in adoption guidance #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @MaryamLane So great to hear that!! #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @PottiJo @BAAFAdoption good idea! I'm sure it would help to understand attachment and loss in adopted children #adoptfosterchat
@Simpsongray @BAAFAdoption, Local Auth rejected us @1st enquiry. We thought they wanted new BME adopters. Good thing we kept trying #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @LouiseWhite68 They can be - there are a range of sources of delay inc. court delays, expert assessment... #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I attended an exchange day yesterday - excellent events, very worthwhile for prospective adopters. There should be more #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @spursblogger @LouiseWhite68 or resources placed in post Baby P assessments? #needadoptionsupport #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @spursblogger @hazeyjayneone Has @BAAFAdoption highlighted 2 government the need 4 more resources 2 post adoption support #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @Scottish_Mum @BAAFAdoption Yes it's an amazing support. We talk about everything in our lives. So helpful #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Great idea! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @adopdad @BAAFAdoption Definitely!! Rollercoaster from the start of process to current time. Wouldn't change a moment tho #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Scottish_Mum Agree - prep needs to be thorough & continuing (not just at start of process) #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations Obviously 2, 3 4 years etc.. is to long, but 6 months is not a long time to get your head around adoption & all it entails #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption We have been lucky that foster carer has helped and the LSB is being put together now #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane personally one of the issues that i feel needs addressing is to attract more EM prospective adopters #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Visit our website to see how many adoption agencies there are across UK - you can choose #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @LouiseWhite68 it is a factor in some places. Authorities have run down adoption teams over past few years #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @rosiechook Have the post-adoption team given you any support? #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @ins_foundations should be some basic standards - we've paid privately to get ours done. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations I am concerned that the assesment will now be to short #adoptfosterchat
@MaryamLane we have had an amazing adoption experience. Yes some unnecessary delays but on the whole good and enjoying every second #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Amii4eva Good question - v important to ensure appropriate support available #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum @ins_foundations I thought it was up to parents to do life story work #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger @PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption I'm v concerned that resources aren't & won't be available for postadoption support #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @hazeyjayneone Call our helpline to talk through - http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour Sorry to hear that - LSB does make a difference #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour I would love any help as to how to help her understand but there is so little support #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations Many LA's saying they are not doing life story books anymore - is this allowed? #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @Miniminstrel @BAAFAdoption that's sad :-( and I hope your children are getting the help they need #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption That's why I write my blog. To show how positive it can be #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @Threebecomefour we had everything from foster carers as lil chick was relinquished. Her past is a great unknown #adoptfosterchat
@LouiseWhite68 @BAAFAdoption @spursblogger #adoptfosterchat are delays due to lack of social workers to do adopter assessments?
@PottiJo @rosiechook @BAAFAdoption Maybe it needs to form part of the schools SENCO training #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption Absolutely - recent Ofsted report highlighted court delays as a key reason for delays in process @QuiverFullMummy #adoptfosterchat
@KallyBlueEyes #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption I think kids who have been adopted should have a social worker they can contact in case things go wrong...
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption We have an online adoption support group and meet up at least once a year from around the country #adoptfosterchat.
@lgbtadoptfoster @BAAFAdoption - and realistic of course - it's a tricky balance! #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations some profs just think it doesnt apply to adopted children - they are in a loving home now & should be fine type attitude #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Agree / RT @hazeyjayneone: @BAAFAdoption ...trying to access basic post-adoption help seems almost impossible. #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster It was 5 years before I phoned again re adoption (a different agency this time though). #adoptfosterchat
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption @Miniminstrel also found that teachers need to understand their own - yes own attachment patterns. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @rosiechook Agree - life story work is vital for helping children make sense of their lives #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption Seems there is no consistency across country in terms of post adoption support #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@skylarkuk #adoptfosterchat - schools and gp's could do with some better understanding of the issues, thank goodness for my PASW!
@BAAFAdoption @Threebecomefour So important to share these success stories #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum I adopted special needs and it's been lovey but tough going. Not enough preparation in the process when we went through it. #adoptfosterchat
@spursblogger RT @lgbtadoptfoster: fear too many potentially good adopters give up after bad initial reception, or receiving poor service #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption @PottiJo Great to hear! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster First time I phoned we were just asked if we'd take a child with SEN. That was it. #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook @PottiJo @BAAFAdoption yes I agree I think Schools should be more enlightened #adoptfosterchat it would help so much!
@BAAFAdoption @Miniminstrel Agree-we've started training some teachers abt adoption eg understanding childrens attachment.More2b done #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Whats that? / RT @BAAFAdoption: ... you'd need to talk to your agency about financial support for education #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@PottiJo @ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption I'm not sure there is a standardised training offered #adoptfosterchat
@Amii4eva "@BAAFAdoption: are the needs of transracially adopted children being adequately met? #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @baafadoption #adoptfosterchat A national gateway is a geat idea. We were put on hold totally 22mnths! now 3yrs in and still no child
@twoplusmunch @BAAFAdoption we have had a fight on our hands this year getting school to recognise needs of our son #adoptfosterchat
@hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption ...trying to access basic post-adoption help seems almost impossible. Assessment was a breeze in comparison! #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour · Open@rosiechook I agree. We're still waiting for our LSB two years after adopting our daughter #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum Lots more sadly / RT @PottiJo: @BAAFAdoption There needs to be some further work with schools I think #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster We understand it can take weeks to pluck up courage to make initial call - we need to respond well #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook And yes we should celebrate adoption successes and promote them too! #adoptfosterchat
@Scottish_Mum I haven't found schools have made allowances for #adoptfosterchat adoption, I have to say.
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption some schools do, or should I say some teachers get it. #adoptfosterchat
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption That's my area of work & I am still get surprised at the lack of knowledge amongst teachers &other profs #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour #adoptfosterchat Our adoption story: Life with Katie http://www.our-adoption-story.blogspot.co.uk/
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption There needs to be some further work with schools I think #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption @lgbtadoptfoster Detail of how gateway will work is still being discussed.Agree that we need2find ways of tracking interest #adoptfosterchat
@rosiechook #adoptfosterchat I feel we need more after support especially about life story work
@mrsmooshoes @BAAFAdoption Our adopted daughter (5) was explaining what it meant to a foster child who joined her class recently. #proud #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour @lgbtadoptfoster Totally agree. Have several friends who have withdrawn after too much negativity from the social workers. #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption It's really important that schools understand the needs of adopted children #adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption absolutely and panel usually ask more detail on family finding #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption
@BAAFAdoption ... you'd need to talk to your agency about financial support for education #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@hazeyjayneone @BAAFAdoption I would also add better support with managing contact. Whole-heartedly agree with your list... #adoptfosterchat
@Threebecomefour We have had an amazing adoption so far. I have lots of adopter friends with equally positive stories and experiences.#adoptfosterchat
@PottiJo @BAAFAdoption I've seen fab matches & its amazing than being part of the process 2 give a child a forever home #adoptfosterchat
@BAAFAdoption Gvn't announced recently that adopted children should be given priority in school admissions... #adoptfosterchat @Miniminstrel
@adopdad @BAAFAdoption absolutely,difficult with all the confidentially involved. Wld
